self development

It’s a pretty obvious statement, isn’t it? Have you ever even heard of someone trying to saw sawdust? I guess not… The wood has already been sawed, the sawdust is the result. You can only work with the result and no amount of wishing or worrying is going to bring that wood back, so you can so something different with it. Maybe next time you get some wood you’ll choose to do things differently…

Here’s another phrase for you –  there’s no use crying over spilt milk. It’s the same thing isn’t it? You’ve spilt the milk, there’s nothing you can do about it. The milk is gone. Maybe next time you won’t leave the milk bottle on the edge of the table, but right now, you need to accept that the milk has gone and move on.

I’m not telling you anything new here, am I? So why is it that when something goes wrong, it can be really difficult just to accept it and move on? Often we waste hours worrying about what happened and wishing we’d done something different, but ultimately, we can’t turn back time, so we need to find a better way of dealing with it.

How about this? If something goes wrong…

  • consider if you could have done it differently to achieve a better outcome
  • do all you can to minimise the impact of the current situation
  • learn from your mistake
  • move on

It’s the last one that causes most people problems but there really is a simple solution. Your mind can only focus on one thing at a time. Yes, we can multi-task, but if you have something that you need to really concentrate on, then your mind will be fully occupied with that. So find something that completely absorbs you, gardening, painting, working, decorating, reading – what works for me, may not work for you, so you need to find your “thing”.  When you find yourself worrying over something that’s already happened, get busy with it, and you’ll be so absorbed with the present that you won’t be re-living the past.


Friday 13th calendar image







So, Friday 13th has come around again. Has anything happened to you that could be considered bad luck? Why do we believe that things will go wrong when a Fridays and the 13th day of the month collide? The short answer is that no-one really knows. According to Wikipedia there is no written evidence for this folklore prior to the 19th century, although there is one theory that it’s an amalgamation of 2 older superstitions that thirteen is an unlucky number and  Friday is an unlucky day.

What I found most interesting though, is that according to the Stress Management Center and Phobia Institute in North Carolina, an estimated 17 to 21 million people in the US are affected by a fear of this day. This surely means that they’re actually expecting something to go wrong for them on this day.

According to Michael Losier’s book  The Law of Attraction, you attract into your life whatever you think about.  Your dominant thoughts will find a way to manifest. Unfortunately, he also states that your mind automatically filters out don’t, not and no. For example, if I say don’t think of an apple, automatically you think of an apple.

Doesn’t it then follow that if we start Friday the 13th with an expectation that bad luck is more likely to affect us on that day, then it probably will?

So, I thank you for reading today’s blog, and now I want you to think calm happy thoughts. DO NOT think “don’t think about Friday the 13th.” In fact, perhaps I should apologise for writing this and putting it in your mind in the first place. Sorry!

I’d love to hear your stories about today and whether you attracted bad luck or managed to stay positive…